Just rewind back to when you were a child and you used to play with your Barbie and Ken dolls. You put so much of your imagination into those toys. You created story lines, plots and character arcs that would put the best writers in Hollywood to shame. For many of us, Barbie and Ken were the first relationships we experienced. As children, we believed that every relationship should be like Barbie’s and Ken.
Then, we were invaded by the hookup culture, where love became as fast and as cheap as a Quarter Pounder with cheese. Now, our love lives are equivalent to our fast food addictions.We know that they both offer very little nutritional value, yet we can’t stop eating because we are addicted to the taste. While fast food clogs up our arteries, casual relationships and 2am booty calls block us from receiving real love and intimacy. Casual relationships may keep us trapped in our own fantasy world, where our relationships are as superficial as Ken and Barbie plastic dolls. Lucky for you, you can save your love life by learning these 7 major tips.
Don’t engage in uncommitted love — you might regret it later.
Hookups and uncommitted love became more frequent in the 1920s with the invention of the automobile. People were no longer restricted to having love in a bed, when the back seat of a car was just as convenient. By the 1960s, a full fledged love revolution had begun. The rise of feminism and widespread availability of contraception such as birth control and condoms gave birth to the era of the casual relationship. Today, the media is a huge source of love education. We are inundated with messages about uncommitted love being healthy and enjoyable. But quantity doesn’t necessary equate to quality. When a survey was conducted with 270 college students, 72 percent indicated that they felt a sense of regret after a casual hookup. (Oswalt, Cameron, & Koob, 2005).